Gaslighting

This happened to me this year!  I didn't know that there was a name for this.  I had to take immediate action and cut a person out of my life.

"Gaslighting can happen on both macro and micro levels and takes many forms. But its message usually boils down to this: “If you have a problem with something I’ve done, the problem is actually with you.”
http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/11/gaslighting-trump-abusive-ex/?utm_source=FB&utm_medium=kw&utm_campaign=Keywee_FB_Ad_Aug_202016&kwp_0=276113

Get Over It - NOW!

"I can't believe this!"
"Unbelievable!"
"I just can't believe that..."

Right now, I am going to stop using these phrases.  We need to move beyond the marveling stage - QUICKLY.  The sooner we come to terms with what is happening, the faster we can start working on solutions.

5 tips to remembering someone’s name while networking

http://www.imdrt.org/blog/5-tips-to-remembering-someones-name-while-networking/

Well I never... really.

I have never been so disappointed in all my life. We hear about these things all the time, but when it hits so close to home – how can a spiritual leader be so lacking in integrity? How can you help yourself to the coffers of a church as if it is your own personal ATM? How can you not fear God? And then to throw rocks at the whistleblowers, calling them devils and liars and slandering them so as to discredit them and have the congregation looking at them funny. Wow. No regard is given to anyone unless they are kissing up to you – or related to you. Wow.
I am so sad over this – more sad than I realized. And I'm not even telling the half of it. So sad that I am honestly having a very hard time dealing with all of it, and it's affecting anything else that I do. Every other aspect of my life is affected by these egregious crimes, and I feel such a loss. It's like a death of a loved one.

I was thinking about that scene in the movie, Diary Of A Mad Black Woman, when Madea called Helen out for beating on her now-dependent husband. Madea said something that rings so true: if you are in a position to get revenge on someone, and you take that opportunity to get that revenge, then you have not moved past the pain; you are still living in it. Getting revenge does not help; only forgiveness will completely heal.
I understand why forgiveness is for the healing of the forgiver. We need to get past the hurt that others have caused, and then sometimes we may have the story twisted anyway, realizing that things were not even as they seemed to be.

One thing I have learned on this life journey is this: people will spend their time and money whenever and wherever they choose. You could be on public assistance or a socialite; it doesn't matter.

How to make enemies the fast way

The easiest way to make enemies is to step out of the box that people think they put you in. (I know I ended that sentence with a preposition, but right now, it's ok. I'm learning to forgive myself.)